As you can tell...I'm under construction....I am hunting for a springy theme...or something different anyways...I'm a nerd...lol
So should I say it out loud? Will I jinx it...we are officially "trying" to have a baby...not just cuz mom and dad are sticking around down here a little longer (although the free child care would be great!) but also because we aren't getting any younger! And I'm finally feeling like it's time and I want a child...I haven't had that inclination although I felt my time was running out....but now I'm imagining stuff like holding my baby and raising a child with husband...I'm starting to see us as parents...I've never really thought of us as that before...isn't that strange? I mean I knew I wanted children at some point but that point always seemed far away...and I'm going to be 36 this year so far away is looking a lot closer or it won't happen! lol...husband and I have been subtly talking about having a child for a while but nothing in concrete...until recently...so over the weekend we talked and husband suggested I go first to be sure that all my "stuff" works right and then if I get the heads up then he'll go get checked out too...but I also did a little Web Md search about fertility questions...and I never realized the statistics...did you know that before the age of 30 you are 55% percent likely to get pregnant and then the stats dramatically decrease after you hit 30? So it might be that we are fine, just the odds are against us! lol...plus...you know, we've been playing "Russian Roullette" as my sister puts it...but I've never actually done the whole ovulation chart and stuff...I'm irregular so it's too much like work! lol...
so anyway, I just made a doctor's appointment (it's time for the annual stuff anyway) and I'm going to talk to her about it tomorrow...any tips or prayers would be greatly appreciated...I've tried to talk to her about it a little bit in the past but I'm so freaking timid and also I don't want to appear dumb...lol
it feels a little weird to be putting this out there...I'm a pretty private person and I think a lot of that is a pride thing...I like to appear as if I get everything right the first time so I don't admit a lot of things...does that make sense? I'm not saying it right...I'm private because I don't want to be vulnerable and expose my hurts and fears...and failure...I don't open up about personal things a lot...this journal thing is helping a little bit...
anyway...it's Monday and I'm at work so I'm not going to get all philisophical...I just wanted to let ya'll know what's up so that you can be praying with us and also I know I'm typing to a bunch of mommies who may or may not have gone through difficulties in becoming a mommy so I'm hoping for some tips...like, here's a question...my doctor is a general practitioner (she used to be a Gyno though so she has the knowledge)...so she does my pap stuff...but does she need to refer me to a fertility specialist or can she do basic tests? and will I offend her by asking her to refer me to someone else?
anyway...blah blah blah...I better get to work!
lots of love!
1 month ago
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I'm in a writing mood today (probably because I was stuck in the house with a sick child all day yesterday) so this might be a long one!!! LOL!
I am soooo excited for you about starting to get pregnant!!! It was a long road for us, but the miracle of a baby gets rid of all the recollection of waiting.
Go to your doctor and just ask your questions....one should be that does she deliver anymore. If not, you probably need to go to an OB/GYN. Ask her that if there are any problems, what are the steps that she will go through....unless you're refered to someone else and then ask them.
We tried for 2 years to have a baby. I had two miscarriages (while on the pill). I went to my 5th doctor and he sat me down and wrote out all the steps that he would go through before he would send me to a fertility office. His goal was 4-6 months and then he would refer me.
I had a regular period only if I was on medicine, so you need to mention that you don't have a regular cycle. They might put you on medicine right away!
I was on clomid for 7 months (it was before the good doctor). That is WAY too long to be on that. Four months is the max and then you take a break for a month or two. Anyway, my Hubby didn't like it because of mood swings, but since I was irregular, I had to be on something. Just warn your hubby!! LOL!
We've been trying again for 2 years. Nothing is wrong with my Hubby, but he was tested when I was at a woman's office (another BAD doctor). It's EASY to fix a man if there is something wrong with him. There are really 2 options....clomid (same thing that I took) or a quick surgery. Most insurances even cover that.
There are so many options for a woman if that is the "problem" (I hate that word....because I'm the "problem"). I hate the temperature test, so I told my doctor that I don't do that! LOL! Anyway, most insurannces do not cover the woman problems.....how awful is that? But so many offices will work with you!
Well, I'll let you go....very personal, huh? If you need some advice, just let me know. I've gotten lots of tests done and been on medicines and it turned out to be great...in the end.
Now that you are trying, it might come very easily! Now you are ready to be parents!!!!! God knows what He's doing.....maybe He was justing waiting on ya'll to decide!
Hope this helps and I didn't bore you too much!
Lots of Love!
Yeah, ditto what Kelley said :) Don't be afraid to ask questions, that's what the dr's are there for (I know, I'm like you, too, braintwin, about keeping a lot of VERY personal things like that to myself, although, not so much since I've had Princess...) Anyways, just ask her if she delivers babies anymore, or if she'll refer you to someone...My very first "women's appointment" was with a general pract. & she was very upfront with me about not delivering, and she'd refer me to someone...you could just make the 2 1/2hr trek up here to see Dr. H!! LOL :) She sees most of the family!! LOL :)
Okay, (((((HUGS)))))) & prayers for you guys!! :) I'm so excited for you!! :)
WAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOo
Does that indicate how EXCITED I am about this journal entry?!?! OH MY!!! This is SO not my Sister!!!! The rest of you (besides Mandy) have no idea how big of a deal this entry is.....SERIOUSLY!!!! WAHOOOOOOOOO
Okay....my advice is ASK your doctor the questions and be pushy! She didn't listen very well the last time...so ask and be pushy! If you don't get the answers you are looking for....ask for a referral to a OBGYN.
I was on clomid when we got pregnant with FAB. I was on the lowest dosage....so it does work and it can work quick!!!
Prayer is the best thing! And....if all else fails...take Mom with you to the doctor!!!! She will get to the bottom of it!!!!!!!!
WAHHOOOOOOOOOOO.....I am SO EXCITED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love you Sister.....and I can't wait to see you as a Mommy...and Burford as a Daddy!!!!! :) :) :)
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